I was discussing with my friend yesterday with regards to my previous post. So let’s just say that John did leave a Facebook address to the girl in his email but how come no response. I did a profile check and found that John’s facebook profile was not helping him.
In my previous post, I talked about the girl looking at one’s facebook profile and knowing what the guy’s look like and what he does, who his friends are. I checked out John’s facebook and realize that there was no photos for outsiders to access. Yes people, photos are important. A great profile photo is very important and also there should be many other photos others can see. Coz I have attended some courses before and know that people need to be somehow attracted in order to trigger a response. I just felt that John has not represented himself in the best way possible- no offence John. Also I realize that his facebook profile did not let his personality shine through. Maybe it is due to his facebook settings. There was not really much info from his profile. Presenting oneself well is good but one must also sound EXCITING & INTERESTING. It was rather not the case from John. Not that John is boring because I am his friend and I know he isn’t, but that from his facebook profile to outsiders, I couldn’t draw anything out from it.
I have always told my close friends- imagine there is a very gorgeous girl and many people are after her. What should you do in order to win her heart? Yep yep sincerety is important but then I believe many others are just as sincere. You have got to somehow do something to stand out from the rest. John, just put yourself in the girl’s shoe and imagine she is doing the same type of approach to know you, will you accept a date with her if she did not give you much info about herself to you.
Maybe some people think that I am talking big. But I just want to give my friend good advice.
Recently a friend of mine told me about his experience regarding knowing a girl.
The story goes like this. My friend (let’s call him John) was at a gathering and happened to find a girl of whom he was quite interested in. He got the email of the girl from a reliable source and set about emailing the girl asking her out. The girl asked him to intro himself and he did so but after that there was no response from the girl. I realize that there are things which my friend could have done.
Let’s talk about how to initiate. Basically there are 3 areas of initiation:
1. Approach and initiating a conversation in person
2. Initiating to show interest and ask someone out on a date
3. Initiating physical intimacy
The first one is very straight forward. Second one is too. The third area is not particularly referring to sex but rather holding hands, hugging and kissing etc…..
So what went wrong for my friend? Nothing much except that he was just too direct. Direct in the sense that he tried to ask the girl out without letting the girl know too much about him. Even with intro, it was still not detailed enough to warrant a “yes” from the girl to go out with him. So what could he have done?
Well he was correct to get the email address from his friend about the girl. But it was not too alright to ask the girl out for a date so early. I realize it doesn’t work that way for a girl from my experience. John was jumping to the second area before finishing the first area. My advice to John for the first area of initiation is to intro a bit about himself such as what he does, what he likes, to intro his blog (which is one of the best blogs I have ever seen) and why he was there at the gathering. He should not be too serious in the intro but be a bit casual in saying the things I have mentioned. He should also pose QUESTIONS to the girl such as why she was there at the gathering, what she thinks of the gathering and how was the food at the gathering. It may seems irrelevant to some people as the aim was to ask the girl out, but then before asking the girl out we must initiate conversation. If my friend has asked me, I would have told him to leave his facebook account or MSN in his email to the girl so that she can add him. Facebook would have been an advantage coz the girl would have an idea how my friend looks like. Giving the phone number does not help because they are just numbers. The facebook thingy comes in handy this time round. I am sure the girl would have added John because John is a rather good-looking and kind person.
So is there still a way back? Yes and no. It depends on the girl. I feel that if John is still keen, he can try to email again. I don’t think the girl will find it bothering as my friend did not hard sell. I suspect the girl perhaps is waiting for a follow-up from John. My advice to John- follow up with another email, this time talking more about himself but not too much and also leave behind your facebook address (pls pls pls). Also pose QUESTIONS to the girl not about the gathering but whether she has won any prizes, as according to John there were prizes after the gathering.
I suspect there will be a response this time round. Don’t be stubborn, John. Listen to my advice.
I was always hoping to tell a friend about something but can’t seem to put it into words. I hope this article will help her.
You may not know it but men have quite such a talent when it comes to hiding their own feelings. In fact what happens most of the time is that a woman has to make guessing games in order to know if the man she likes her in return or not.
So, if you are in the same dilemma of not knowing whether the man you like feels the same way towards you, it is high time you check on the various signs a man is in love with you. Remember that while there are some men who may openly express their intention of liking you, there are also those who cannot express their feelings whether they truly like you or merely going out with you to have fun. Here are some of those signs to watch out for in your man so you will know if he genuinely adores you or merely hanging out with you.
1. First, the minute a man begins to introduce you to his family and friends, and he does the introduction so arrogantly, you can relax that he is truly in love with you. What is more, one of the signs a man is in love with you is when you do not have to ask him for anything because he already knows what you need even before you say it. If you experience this with him, then you should feel lucky because there is no doubt that he loves you truly.
2. Try to notice whether your guy is always in a happy mood, because if he seems happy all the time, always looking forward to being with you, and suddenly shows some seriousness in making his life better, then it is most likely that he has already fallen deeply for you. Really, decoding the signs a man is in love with you, can sometimes be a daunting task.
3. What is more, when you notice that he is so giving, and seems to be always there for you, then you can safely say he has fallen for you. A man deeply in love will do everything a woman asks him, or even before a woman asks. And in fact, he becomes more than willing to abandon all his dealings, business and personal, just to be with you. When you see all such signs in your man, then you can really tell your friends that this guy is truthfully in love with you.
4. Likewise, if a man allows you to come into his life and be a significant part of his decision-making such as buying things for his wardrobe or his house, or as to how he should look, and many others, then you can be sure that you have a seriously committed man in your hands already.
Really, one of the other quick signs a man is in love with you is when he starts saying something about settling down, having babies, growing old together and thinking about raising a family together. However remember also, that not all men are as expressive as other men in saying such things; thus, you will also need to look at their body language or movements to confirm his love for you.
5. And last of all, you would know if you have already captured your man’s heart when he exerts so much effort to making you feel so extra special. Sometimes, a man may not say it in words that he likes you, but with his actions, you can right away see the signs a man is in love with you.
Just want to say- please move on…………..
Last week, my company held our year-end walkathon at MacRitchie Reservoir Park. I was involved in the planning and organising of the event. I must say it went quite smoothly.
Yes I had to conduct briefing to 60 odd people. But it was a good experience.
The company is starting to do well again from what I see now. Good news for all of us!!!
Task: Recording for Songcraft Songwriting Circle
Personnel involved: Jeremy Yew, Betty Chen, Lim Hui Leng, Jerron Lee
Place: Jerron’s home
Time: 11am-3pm
This is a recap of the recording done on the 9 Aug. It was a great experience for all of us who were involved on that day. Though my room is a bit small, the four of us managed to find some “comfort” in the seats we were given. We were able to finish recording the songs we planned to do. A total of 5 songs were done.
The best performer for that day I think was Jeremy who did all his recordings with only one take each. The best singer that day definitely was Betty who mesmerized us with her voice. The greatest surprise for that day was Hui Leng. who sang on that day. To be truthful she sang quite well . Due to copyright reasons, I am unable to upload her song on my blog. But do keep a lookout for this hidden talent in her.
You can read more about the recording details here
